My relationships got better when I took ownership of my life

It’s hard to accept what is, when you are constantly blaming others for how you feel and behave. Your life is your own.

Your relationships are a reflection of your values and your self-care. If you need more nourishment, self-care offers it.

Remaining in a victim mindset keeps you in a psychological position of powerlessness. But you actually do have power, when you stop giving it to other people. Everytime you hold others responsible for your choices, your perspective, your feelings… you give them a leadership role in your life that they did not ask for.

Self-care is a magnet for healthy relationships.

There is so much power available to you when you take ownership for your choices. When you step outside of your trauma triangle, you realize there are no victims. You just needed a change in your life, one that is your responsibility to create.

Stop measuring how loved you are by people’s ability to handle the drama of your life.

I love you. Get your life in order. Some of the best demonstrations of love and support that I’ve received in times of deep transformations in my life, felt like abandonment. Just because you feel something doesn’t make it true.

I got angry when people believed that I could do for myself what I wanted them to do. I would push them away, then want them to push their way back into my process, just so I could pull away again.

I was misusing the time, energy, and presence of my support people, because I was not taking responsibility for my life.

If you’ve been praying for peace, you can create it when you are honest about the chaos you have created. To believe you can create peace but did not create the chaos, is delusional. You created the life you are living.

There is no healing without the truth. It’s time to be honest about your drama tactics,  how you push people away then expect them to be there, and how your communication skills lack when you are fighting to be held up, instead of standing up.

Change is inevitable. Progress is the result of good decisions. Something magical happens when you take ownership for your life.

You created everything in your life. That’s not something to be shameful about, it means you have the power to create what comes next.

The most peaceful things I’ve manifested were a result of my recognition that whatever I created, I can uncreate. It ALL begins and ends with me. When I set myself free, I experienced free relationships. I no longer created a narrative of abandonment. I became grateful that the people closest to me, kept my life in my hands.

#HealEverything #GREATERisHere #ELEVATE #SeeKnowAccept #Donein2020 #itsavibe

Martyrdom is the gospel of the ego… #HealEverything

If your demonstration of love is not rooted in self-love, you are self-sacrificing in an attempt to give love, receive love.

Self-sacrifice combined with self-neglect, is the culturally celebrated manipulation tactic.

“Look at all I’ve done for you.”
“Do you know what it took…”

But when you were doing it, it was… “This makes me happy. I love doing this…”

You call it love, but it’s self-betrayal. And every person you betrayed yourself for, suddenly is responsible for your choices.

People in a chronic state of self-neglect are not seeing themselves correctly.

Boundaries are necessary in healthy relationships

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

How can they see you, life, experiences, as they truly are, when they are not even seeing the truth of who they are?

Pain blurs vision. Healing clarifies it.

I love you, but take a moment to ask yourself this…

Who asked you to make the sacrifices you made? Who “made” you do it? And why are you so mad at the people who received what you gave, who believed you when you said that’s what you wanted to do?

All lies are being revealed in 2020. Wake up.

You can just BE love and not try to manipulate people into loving you in a way you need to love yourself.

Martyrdom is the gospel of the ego. 💁‍♀️

HealEverything #GREATERisHere #ELEVATE #SeeKnowAccept #Donein2020

I am UNshameable. #HealEverything

This mornings #WombHealingCall for the #WCOE was sooooooo rich!!!

Permission precedes deliverance.

We declared this…

I am UNshameable. I cannot be shamed about the very things I accept about myself. Because I have accepted it, your judgment of it becomes irrelevant.

My acceptance of who I am, is a source of my power. #HealEverything

Accept the many parts of you.

We activated the Wisdom of the “Goddess of Getting Naked”.

I find myself excited these days about not giving a fuck. No seriously.

I love without attachment.
I recognize the truth without attachment.
I explore without attachment.
I help without attachment.
I educate without attachment.
I do business without attachment.
I interact without attachment.
I make love without attachment.
I walk away without attachment.
I stay without attachment.
I create boundaries without attachment.
I confront without attachment.
I leave people with their assumptions without attachment.
I flirt without attachment.
I foresee without attachment.
I grieve without attachment….. and so on.

I have experienced the first couple of decades of my life with toxic attachments. Learning how to detach was essential to my healing.

Bye can be good.

You can hold on to something or someone so long, that you lose yourself. Let go.

I love you. 💕 #Maat #Inanna #Ishtar #InnerHarmony #LawofDetachment